A Perfect Sunday

It started with a visit to what used to be called the “Church of Tim Russert”, the three hours give or take of back-to-back new shows. Today the topic on all networks was the Massachusetts election and its impact on Obama’s presidency. This topic, complex and leading to wild speculation of all kinds, was addressed by White House surrogates, Republican senators, commentators and scholars. I hung on every word as I ate leftover mushroom quiche and downed five cups of coffee.

During the commercials and after the shows ended, I read the Washington Post, my favorite newspaper, saving the online NYT columnists for later.

Paul and I then sat in our little parlor with a blazing fire. Outside it was grey and overcast with two inches of rain projected for the next 24 hours. Daisy slept soundly in her newly washed white fur, smelling much better than she did last night. We listened to an Ipod playlist that includes a song Eliza had recorded and both of us smiled when that number came up.

Later as the fire faded, I revved up the piano and pulled out some old Bach pieces, breaking them down to separate hands and taking them sloooow.

Five o’clock brought a glass of wine and a simple chicken dinner followed by an old Cary Grant/Doris Day movie and an episode of Law and Order Criminal Intent. Then sleep around 9:00. Paul stayed up to see Masterpiece Theater.

When I was young, I would have thought a day like this insufferably boring. Today I thought it perfect. We count our many blessings.

RETRO RESOLUTIONS

It’s so tiresome to make endless resolutions – usually the same ones, year after year, only to find that few or none of them survive more than a month and we end up feeling shitty. This year we’ve decided to do something different and consider the resolutions we have already kept… even though we never made them. We feel so proud. It’s a great way to start 2010.
Here, then, are our resolutions for 2009:

1. Take more risks: On July 11th we left our home in Tucson and traveled 1900 miles to rural West Virginia to buy a home that Paul had only seen on the Internet.

2. Get a new job: I began this new federal job in public health on August 18th, funded by the stimulus, and am still not sure what I do exactly, but I feel like I'm helping the president.

3. Retire: Paul retired officially in June ’09 and is loving the role of full time artist/gentleman farmer.

4. Give the girls their space: I stopped telling Diana and Liza that they should call me more and in 2009 they called me more.

5. Save money: We have only just begun to seriously save. Our total retirement is predicated on very good health and a stable economy, but we are saving.

6. Travel to Europe: On December 29th, we placed a deposit on a 10-day trip to Italy for Late May 2010.

7. Be kinder and gentler: Paul has no issues with this. I, on the other hand, have become irascible with age and often take it out on customer (dis)service representatives. On December 31st, I spoke with a Delta agent about a lost voucher and was nice as pie and the situation was resolved very satisfactorily.

8. Spend more time reading: Paul reads about six hours/day and has for decades. I am finally reading actual books (rather than Newsweek and newspapers) due to the travel time on the train. Resolution kept (had I actually made one).

9. Take the time to do more home cooking: I am rapidly becoming the soup queen of Persimmon Pear Lane (a hard-fought campaign) and have been dusting off the old cookbooks from Rhode Island days. Paul is smiling and appreciating the nod to his French-Canadian culture.

10. Take more photographs: This resolution needs more work. The lovely photo that introduces this blog was actually taken by our friends Don and Kathy , New Year's Eve in 2007. But we still look a lot like this. Even retrospectively, we can’t be perfect. Call it the early Catholic influence.

WINTER

It’s the first “real” one in 25 years. We drove down the mountain last Saturday in a fine snow and headed out to Gettysburg for our anniversary weekend. The snow flew horizontally against the windshield and though it wasn’t yet sticking to the road, the pines began to take on a light coat. No deer around that day. We wondered where they huddled.

The first four months of our new adventure have been rich and comforting. All the rolling farmland in nearby Virginia and Maryland changes its appearance daily as the slanting of the light moves toward the solstice. Rain, too, has been frequent but even rain looks different through the late autumn colors in our wooded yard. Our big kitchen is the heart of our new home and I find myself cooking old recipes from cards that have stains going back to the Warwick days!

Both of the girls were with us Halloween weekend and Liza has been out a few times since. She catches the late Friday train with me and we shop together on Saturday or get our hair done. Diana will be back for Christmas and Neil will join her. Jon will be back soon from a brief assignment in the Philippines. We bought a ping pong table and set up a movie room in the basement for those nights between Christmas and New Years when they’ll all be home.

It’s only now that we can reflect on the move, after the craziness of the furniture delivery and the huge adjustment to the long commute. It does feel normal now and the house feels like ours.

Paul’s Civil War passion is constantly fed by this environment. Lately it’s been focused even more on Lincoln, and his early Christmas present is a life mask of Lincoln that was cast from the famous Volk piece. He reads book after book about the 1860’s and I’m finishing Ted Kennedy’s beautiful memoir and then will start David Plouffe’s book about the Obama campaign. Little more than 100 years separates our interests!

All of this year, I’ve been terribly aware of getting older – both the sadness and beauty of feeling one’s own mortality. Here near the woods and the two rivers and the naive deer – many of whom don’t survive their first encounter with our machines – one can’t ignore the passing of seasons. But for millennia, humans have tried to fill their dark December nights with as much light as they could create … both with their fire and their stories. So tonight we will build the fire, put candles in the windows and make that marvelous lentil soup from Sunset magazine. We’re ready for your visit!

THE TRAIN, THE BUILDING & THE JOB

These are pictures of the MARC train and the Park Lawn building. But let me connect them to my day.

I get up now at 5:00 AM and there’s no leeway, no snooze alarm, no lying to myself about ten more minutes…I have to get up because if not, I’ll be crazy and/or miss the train. Paul gets up with me because he’s a real doll!

I make the coffee and breakfast for the two of us, turn on the news (It’s even too early for MSNBC’s “Way Too Early”) and focus on focusing. Since we found and unpacked the calendar, it feels much better because I can actually see what day it is and calculate its relationship to the weekend. At 6:10, I get in the shower and at 6:40 we leave and do the drive down the mountain and across the Potomac to Brunswick MD where I catch the 7:07. I stop to get the Post out of the machine. (I subscribed to the Post and then found out there is only delivery on Sunday up on “Walton’s Mountain” so I’m stuck with newsstand prices). The train is generally on time and I join the throng of commuters and board at one of three points. I like the designated quiet car but have come to realize it doesn’t matter much in the AM because everyone’s quiet. (It matters a lot on the way home when many people have some kind of trainborne happy hour and do a lot of serious carrying on.)

The ride in uneventful until we come to Gaithersburg, MD and lots of people get on and look for seats and everyone who has an open seat next to them pretends they are sleeping or deaf and blind and people have to actually ASK if they can sit down even though this happens at EXACTLY THE SAME TIME every day with the SAME PEOPLE. I am amazed. I get off at Rockville, the next stop.

From there, I go down the stairs and into the Metro then up the escalator to the platform and onto the Red Line. This takes me just one stop to Twinbrook and I get off, go down the stairs, out the gate and walk the .8 mile to my building.

The Park Lawn building has 18 floors. I am on the 18th. When I enter my building, I go through security, just like the airport (only they don’t make me throw away my water bottle). I ride upstairs and enter the “headhouse” hallway where I walk by the office of the US Surgeon General. Just after the women’s room is the first door to my suite. I am one of about 40 new staff who are working on grants to health centers supported by the president’s stimulus package or ARRA, American Recovery and Reinvestment Act. I am not doing the most exciting job of my career, but I know I am helping get dollars out to an excellent health care system for the underserved and in my heart I feel like I’m helping Barack Obama.

Some of the best features of this job include:
1. Awesome coworkers
2. Great cafeteria food. Yes. It’s true. Choices range from stuffed grape leaves to turkey dinner w/ trimmings to Greek wraps, spinach lasagna…all for about $5/day
3. The building has a dry cleaners and they do alterations (like hemming newly bought pants that are now always 4-6 inches too long. What’s up with that? I’m tall.)
4. The credit union is in the building and there are not one but two free ATMs
5. There is a little shuttle bus you can take to and from the Metro when it rains
6. Inside the building, there is also a convenience store that sells Tylenol and birthday cards and has warm freshly baked cookies every day at 2:30

There is nothing about my life that is the same as before, way back in June. I work till 4:45, do the reverse commute back to Brunswick where Paul and Daisy pick me up and we drive home. Driving to work in Tucson took 5 minutes and I could often complete my work at home… entering hospice data on my little laptop. This is a daunting commute but I am rejuvenated and hopeful and grateful for it all. Every day.

The Russians

They were the movers. We waited for two weeks from the time we requested our stuff be delivered to WV and finally we received a call from 1st Choice Moving (make that Last Choice) that they would be here between Wednesday and Friday. Having dealt with so many business spokespersons since the moving began, we knew not to trust this, and we were right. The driver called us on Friday night to say they would arrive early Sat AM. About 9 AM I called him to ask for a time and he said about 4 hours which would mean 1:00 PM in most universes. Having heard nothing by 2:00 PM I called again and no one answered. This did not give me a confident feeling and then I rationalized it that he was happily delivering furniture to someone in the next town. At 2:45 PM I received a call from a total stranger who asked if I was expecting a moving company and that they were at his house and totally lost, about 25 miles to our west. We talked it through and arranged for me to meet them at the nearby Walmart in 45 minutes and they would follow me to our house.

I drove to Walmart and waited. After a while an 18 wheeler with UNITED VAN LINES on the side pulled in and it was them – Yuri and Richard. I never knew why it said United and not First Choice but no matter, every company in the US is now one company anyway.

Yuri was from Russia and Richard from Latvia, both were speaking in Russian at a very fast clip and their English was iffy. We chatted for a bit and I tried to determine why there were only two guys when it took five to load the truck in Tucson over a 4-hour period. This was like the math word problems in grammar school where you figured out how many it would take … and I knew we were in trouble. Richard said he was going to look for a “Mexican” in the Walmart parking lot. He said he did this all the time and he would offer $10./hour for a helper. This was Saturday and we were moving quickly toward happy hour but I went along. I even helped and checked the laundramat and dollar store for anyone who looked like they could move furniture and needed a quick buck. Nothing… Yuri, meanwhile, was expressing skepticism about being able to get up our hill once he realized we lived on Walton’s Mountain and as the clock ticked, the whole thing was starting to make me nauseous. Long story short, The Russians went to Home Depot looking for a Mexican and had no luck there either, so they followed me home and made a heroic attempt to pull into our driveway, but then one of the wheels was stuck in a large hole for about 15 minutes before this was accomplished. (Those of you who have known us for a long time will see this as an homage to our trip through Tyler Texas in 1987).

Eventually, the tractor trailer made it up the driveway. It was after 5:00. The sun was slowly making its descent in the western sky and only two guys were present to haul ass and get this stuff in the house. Just then, Paul came out to meet the Russians and, not surprisingly, agreed to help. Seven hours later, everything was inside. The guys came in to shower and then slept in their truck in the driveway till they could see to back out early this morning. They were nice guys and we got to know them. Richard has a baby girl in NYC and they were off to do a small delivery there and have some time to visit with the child.

Just before they left, we discovered that the piano was damaged eight ways to Sunday, an antique Shaker rocker was missing and Paul’s “gorilla” ladder was not with the boxes. It’s OK. It will all work out cuz we not only have insurance but close friends and families who are lawyers.

We ate dinner tonight at our own kitchen table. The only thing that would have made it better was if you had been there.

Give Me The Beat

The aging angular face of Marlin, the guitarist/singer was spotlit in red. The drummer, who was skinny as a rail, had signs of a mild stroke or Bell’s palsy. He threw himself into his six piece set of Pearl drums with a rapt look that lasted the night. Off to the side, a guy on keyboard kept melody in a supportive, even way. Though the volume was way too loud, some extraordinary music was happening in this Quality Inn lounge in Harpers Ferry and we couldn’t resist staying and dancing, stretching out a couple of Blue Moons and a basket of homemade chips. Marlin’s vocals lured us to the dance floor with Mustang Sally, Drift Away and a very lyrical Always on My Mind. The band looked like they were on Medicare and, as heavy smokers all, are probably using their benefits. But their music was very fine and it was a great way to start our new life in West Va. Jo-Anne and her kids had come in earlier in the day and she and Paul did a few turns on the floor with the same grace that they brought to the Buttonwoods dance hall in the summers of the late 50’s and early 60’s.

We have already been reveling in the closeness of family again with our stay at the "compound" in Great Falls, VA with sisters Patricia and Doreen and Pat's husband Lloyd. We parked ourselves there for days enjoying the space and the generosity of “kinfolk”. Liza came to visit there as her summer job ended and she began a short vacation before starting back to grad school. We went shopping, had pedicures and played Hi-Lo Jack like old times. Everything is feeling right. Tuesday night we will get the keys to our new home and then we move in and wait for our furniture. (The moving company can’t “promise” when it will arrive but say they will let us know “soon”).

Meanwhile, yesterday morning Paul and I did a “test drive” to Rockville to the federal building where I will work. It was fine until we exited the interstate and attempted the convoluted route to the Twinbrook Parkway and I freaked as unexpected left exits and narrowing lanes threw me in the wrong direction, encouraging lots of horns behind me and a few explicit gestures. When we finally spotted the 1.4 million square foot building where I will bring my little briefcase, I vowed to only use the train to get there! Beginning tomorrow…Monday AM… I will leave the house (or Quality Inn for now) at 5:15 to catch the MARC line. I don’t know what to wear or bring for lunch. I am already feeling a lot like Diana in her little plaid dress, about to cross the street for the first time.

Wish me luck.

THE WATER IS WIDE

As we wait for the job to start, the new house to close and the furniture to come, there’s not a whole lot to do. Some days I fret and Paul calms me down and says that it’s all working out fine and everything will get done. So it seemed like the best thing to do was start regarding this time as a prolonged and unexpected vacation. At the end of last week we set off for the beach.

First we had to drive to Manassas to get our car which had finally arrived at the last possible moment of our contract with Autolog. We searched for the wrecker service where they said we would find the car … not exactly reassuring. It was thankfully in one piece and we drove to a motel to spend the night and wait until dawn on Saturday for our journey east across the Chesapeake and eventually to the Delaware coast. Eventually. We had no preparation for this traffic. We’ve seen Cape Cod and LA and nothing compares with the traffic across the Bay Bridge at Annapolis on the first Saturday of August, and then the bumper to bumper crawl through MD to DE and over to Rehoboth Beach. It took us 5 ½ hours. Meanwhile, about an hour into this trek, we both have to find a bathroom. Nothing tells you that you’re 62 like the sudden, desperate urge to pee that seems to come out of nowhere with a relentlessness you never experienced in your youth. Think of all the nights at Newport clubs when you could stand in line after a few beers and chat while everyone took their turn. Not any more. We finally pulled off the road at a big gas station/convenience store and joyfully burst through the door only to find a line of about fifteen travelers waiting for the one unisex toilet. There was nothing to do but head for the small cluster of trees at the back of the parking lot. Paul got there first and disappeared. Needing more cover, I headed behind an abandoned 18-wheeler but could see nearby traffic too clearly. I finally found relief as I tucked into a large shrub near the rear of the building and crouched into position. I could see a family of five get our of their SUV and look in my direction and I didn’t care. Something about being a nurse… I’ve seen it all, now you can too if you care to! Relief! We headed back to the car from our separate undisclosed locations and joined Daisy who was sitting up in the drivers seat and wondered what the big deal was with peeing outside.

After 2 ½ more hours in heinous traffic, we got to our little inn at the beach and began to truly relax. Mid-afternoon, we headed down with Daisy only to find a “no dogs allowed on the beach” sign. We knew taking turns wouldn’t be a lot of fun and then remembered her airplane carrier. Paul packed her in, threw a shirt over the carrier and we were good to go. For the next three days, we visited the beach with our small “package”. On the last afternoon, I saw a lifeguard looking curiously in Paul’s direction as he continuously talked and offered treats to the package, patting it and checking its little zippers. Nevertheless, it all worked. We even had a chance to go in the water together, jumping with the waves and laughing as we had in those Buttonwoods summers so many years ago.

Today we are heading back to my sister Pat’s. Papers are coming from Tucson, homeowners insurance is being arranged in West Virginia. We are refreshed and ready for the next big thing.